Domestic Violence

Catholic Charities has two programs to help individuals and families facing domestic violence. These programs help provide counseling, support groups, community resources. My Sisters’ Place, our confidential domestic violence shelter, serves individuals and families fleeing violence. The Pathways program is a community-based resource provider that helps victims of domestic violence in Maricopa County. This three-part team helps survivors by providing free counseling, support groups, and mobile victim advocacy.

Tuesday, 11 October 2022

Domestic Violence Hides in Plain Sight

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Catholic Charities' team at My Sisters' Place. Catholic Charities' team at My Sisters' Place.

A relationship characterized by domestic violence rarely starts that way. In the early stages, an abuser may shower their partner with affection to gain trust. But over time, behaviors that seem innocent can lead to a controlling dynamic.

Relationship Violence Often Goes Unnoticed

Despite news coverage of murders, missing persons cases and more involving domestic violence, there’s a lack of awareness surrounding how common it really is. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 10 million adults in the U.S. experience domestic violence every year.

Not every case involves physical abuse, such as hitting, slapping, punching holes in walls or destroying belongings. There are four other types of abuse:

Less Obvious Forms of Abuse

  • Financial abuse occurs when a person is denied access to or prevented from making money, or their money is controlled by someone else.
  • Sexual abuse involves forcing or coercing a person into unwanted sexual conduct or exposure.
  • Emotional abuse can include name-calling, unnecessary criticism and manipulation that toys with a person’s self-esteem.
  • Psychological abuse entails the use of fear, intimidation and isolation from friends and family members. A common tactic abusers undertake is to “gaslight” victims, so they question their sanity.

Struggles of Leaving an Abusive Relationship

The most difficult thing for people who haven’t experienced abuse to understand is why someone would stay in this situation. In some cases, a person may stay in an abusive relationship because they don’t have the financial resources to leave.

“They won’t take the first step because they know they can’t afford to live and pay rent on their own,” says Alicia Paddock, Senior Program Manager at Catholic Charities’ My Sisters’ Place shelter.

However, there are resources to help people escape abusive relationships. Catholic Charities’ domestic violence programs support individuals and families whose lives have been uprooted by abuse.

My Sisters’ Place

My Sisters’ Place, Catholic Charities’ confidential domestic violence shelter, serves individuals and families. Staff provide safety planning, case management and skill/resource building to empower survivors to advocate for themselves. The shelter also assists with aftercare planning, employment, referral to transitional programs, affordable housing, furniture, food, and more.

When Ashley found herself at My Sisters’ Place, she knew it was an opportunity to change her life. Her boyfriend became physically abusive when she got pregnant, and she feared for her and her child’s safety. At My Sisters’ Place, Ashley worked with a counselor and focused on her parenting skills, which motivated her to find a job and housing.

The Pathways Program

The Pathways program is a community-based resource provider that helps victims of domestic violence in Maricopa County. This three-part team helps survivors by providing free counseling, support groups and mobile victim advocacy.

With the help of Pathways, victims like Susan are overcoming domestic violence situations. Susan’s partner had been emotionally and physically abusing her for years when she reached out to Pathways. The team assisted her in completing an order of protection and helped her create goals, find employment, access benefits, and move out on her own.

Education Prevents Domestic Violence

These programs don’t just get people out of domestic violence situations, but educate them so they can protect themselves. With this knowledge, clients can work towards stability while giving themselves the kindness they deserve.

If you’re interested in supporting the work of My Sisters’ Place and Pathways, view our Amazon Charity List or give online.

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Bethany Durham

Bethany Durham has a bachelor’s degree in Communication and a passion for storytelling. Her writing for Catholic Charities has included blogs, newspaper and magazine articles. She enjoys telling client stories in a way that captures the humanity and emotions of those she writes about. When she’s not working, Bethany loves to spend time with her two cats, hike and sing karaoke.


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